Planting The Seed - 3 Questions - June
We are now halfway through the year.
Mid-year is a beautiful time to reassess what seemed important six months ago.
If you started the year with a set of goals, a single goal, a word for the year, or any version of creating and living into your life, how are you going?
Is what was important at the start of the year still as important?
Are you moving toward your goals as you had hoped, or has life had other plans?
Do you need to let go of the goal entirely or postpone it for another year?
Many people believe that a goal should be achieved at all costs. I do not believe this to be true.
Crafting goals is one way to access personal growth and understand who we are and what matters to us. Having a word for the year is also a way of accessing our personal growth and what matters to us.
Although we can plan and plot and take aligned actions, sometimes we have to concede that it is not going to work right now or ever.
I was to participate in a fitness race this weekend. I competed last year, and as soon as I crossed the finish line, I knew I wanted to do it again.
The training started well, but I started getting some foot and then hip pain ( experts seen, scans had, all good), but it halted my training plan.
Yes, I had a goal for the year to compete again, but my ultimate goal is to use my body for as long as possible, which meant resting and changing how I moved my body in this season.
I could have tried to make up for ‘lost time’, but that would risk injury. I could show up tomorrow ( event day) and give it my best shot, but that would also risk injury, so I have let it go. Letting this goal go is not upsetting or disappointing; it was a ‘nice to have.’
However, when we encounter situations in which bigger goals do not go according to plan, we experience disappointment and loss.
Life does not always go according to plan. Self-honouring and self-kindness come into play during these times.
Looking at how we want to feel in the best and worst seasons, can give us access to this self-honouring and kindness.
This month, the 3 Questions will help you tap into how you want to feel for the rest of the year.
Depending on your answers to the below questions will dictate if you are letting something go or adding something.
For example, if you want to feel joy, you may add daily dancing for the rest of the year.
You may let go of a commitment if you want to feel calm.
If you want to feel a connection, you may need to let go of someone.
3 Questions:
1. If you chose one feeling to take you to the end of the year, what feeling would you choose?
2. If you were to choose one goal to support this feeling, what is the goal?
3. What is your first action toward how you want to feel?
We only have so little control in our lives (it’s annoying-but true). Some things turn out, and some don't.
Reflection is within our control. Take a moment to reflect on what matters to you in this season.
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The Harvest - What is your relationship to rest?
In farming, fallow means allowing the ground to lay dormant and inactive for a while after a field has been ploughed, tossed and turned. Allowing the ground to rest enables the farmer to understand what the ground needs for the next season’s harvest.
When we have been turned and tossed from work, life events, grief, health crises, or any transition, we need to give ourselves periods of rest to be dormant and inactive for a while.
But even when we have not been tossed and turned, we need to rest because we are a living being, and all living beings rest.
We cannot out-stress our stress; stress does not get better if we keep going; it gets better when we stop.
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