Planting The Seed - 3 Questions
It is impossible to be just one thing all of the time, not to mention emotionally and mentally exhausting, and a tiny container for women to thrive within.
“If you don’t go after what you, you’ll never have it.
If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
If you don’t step forward, you’re always at the same place.”
– Nora Roberts
I often speak about the curse of the 'good girl,' a term many women resonate with on some level.
We were raised to:
Never make a fuss
Never to upset anyone
Never draw attention to yourself
Never to rock the boat
Meet the needs of others, always
Be good. At. All. Costs. Even if it costs you, you.
These restraints led me to believe that being a 'good girl’ was the only way to be loved, accepted, and valued, and I know I'm not the only one.
It permeates all areas of our lives, no matter our age. We feel the need to be good mothers, good daughters, good wives, good partners, good bosses, good employees. Good. Good. Good. What an incredible amount of pressure to put on oneself.
It is impossible to be just one thing all of the time, not to mention emotionally and mentally exhausting, and a tiny container for women to thrive within.
As women, we are multi-layered. We can be angry, direct and graceful, harsh and resourceful, beautiful and tired. We can be scared, sexual, confused, strong, and lost.
Sometimes, I can be all these things at the same hour, and that was before peri-menopause!
So, how does being a ‘good girl’ impact our ability to ask for what we need and want? Because many of us were trained to think that the need to be an ever-obedient 'good girl' overrides ALL the other needs we might have.
The first lesson in The Gift of Asking Live Coaching Program is "Understanding the curse of the good girl”because we need to unpick and unlearn what we have been taught.
One of this program's most powerful aspects is having a group of women unlearning together and supporting each other as we move from 'good girls' to fully expressed women.
It is amazing to witness the courage of women, and witnessing the progress of one woman in a group ignites the courage of every other woman in the group.
Every single ask we make empowers not only us but also the women watching us.
Here are your 3 Questions for May:
3 Questions:
1. How does your 'good girl' show up?
2. Who does she show up for the most?
3. What do you want to ask for but your 'good girl' would never allow?
Action: What action could you take today to move you toward becoming a fully self-expressed woman?
The Gift of Asking Live Program - Starting on June 17th
Early bird: $1499 (with payment plan option) Ends June 5
Full Price: $2499
If you have any questions about the program, email me at kemi@keminekvapil.com or DM me on Instagram.
Have you been joining me for The Gift of Asking Live Challenge this week? Have you been making your asks? Remember, I will be live on Instagram today at 2pm, and Saturday and Sunday.
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Wishing you a weekend of stepping into your full expression - without guilt. xxx
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